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Spreading the Cost of Dating

Spreading the Cost of Dating

Spreading the Cost of Dating

Over the last few decades the onus of the man paying the bill at the end of a date has changed. No longer is the man the main wage earner Ė with equality should come the idea of sharing the financial burden. Anyway thatís the theory in reality when it comes to that first date the man will still be the one reaching for the wallet and paying for the date.

I looked into the research more to see how dating has changed in the past few decades. In the 1980ís, men and women both expected gender differentiated roles on dates. Paying for dates was generally considered a masculine behavior. A shift started to happen in the 1990ís when dating became a little more egalitarian. Although men were still generally expected to plan and pay for dates, women who paid for dates became much more common

So How Long Should the Man Pay for Everything

Is there a general rule for this? Is this something that should continue through the life of the relationship. In many relationships the dynamics will change over a period of time. A general rule is that men pay for the first 2-3 months, though in many relationships men will pay for the entire life of the relationship

What I really think is that it doesnít matter who pays for a date, but behaviors can bring more insight into the kind of person you, or your date, are. For example, if you offer to pay even if the other person invited you, then maybe that shows your generosity or maybe your stance on traditional dating values.

Never offering to pay might show a lack of consideration for the other person or possibly strict traditional values. And if neither person offers to pay for the whole bill, perhaps itís a statement that the date is more platonic than romantic.

Splitting the Bill Ė A Big No No

So for men it might seem fair if the girl heís going out with earns more than him and she shoud pay half. For the lady this might also seem the just a right path. However, in reality the date will still go a hell of a lot better if this stays in the territory of the man. It still seems that inequality exists Ė even if itís more in our hearts than our minds.

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